Dating is Disappointing

      Most dates you go on either go really really great, and there's a chance for a second one, or it goes horribly and you never want to see that person again. It's even harder when you just barely go through a break up. You try so hard not to think about that person you were with before, but you can't. You even start comparing the "datie" with the previous guy and everything seems wrong. That's because it is!! STOP!!! Stop comparing one with the other. The only way to get over someone is to be open minded and date other people without judging them to the previous "one". 

     Really, dating is some serious game that plays with your emotions and heart. Everyone goes through it and it's what you do after that makes you either a stronger person or someone you don't want to be. You can choose to learn from it and grow or become this vindictive  person towards the person who broke your heart and hate them. And if you chose the latter you'll be in misery because you're holding a grudge. And that will consume you which in turn will make you the psycho ex-girlfriend!! That's the worst type of person you could ever become. Don't stoop so low. Show them that you're the one who ended up better off than them. Plus you won't be able to enjoy all the beauty of life and the great single ladie or bros you could become really good friends with.   

     I choose to be the person who learns and grows from those experiences. Even through the hard heartbreaks. It's a very hard thing, but you know you truly loved that person when their happiness goes above yours. Even if it means seeing them date other people and it crushes you. That's emotional pain to the max, but you're happy for them because they're moving on and they look happy. That's all that matters to you because that's all you want for them. To be happy. To move on. To learn and grow from what you had to give to them. 

      Yet, at the same time you're sad because you miss them so stinkin much. That's only natural. I believe that when you love someone for who they are you'll always love them. Because they helped you become the person you are. You created memories that'll always make you smile. Those memories are the only connection you have with them and you want those to last forever. They will because you gave a little bit of yourself to making that relationship the way it was. The healthy way. The good way. The way that is going to make you love and cherish that person in your heart and memories. 

     So all in all dating is disappointing IF you allow your past to get in the way. I've learned that the last few days as I've gone on dates. It's hard business, but the more you go on dates the better it'll get. Make the most of the dates because they're going to be experiences and stories you tell. Enjoy the time of being single too. Go out and do stupid wild crazy things with your single friends!! That is also a really good way to get over someone! Plus Everyone loves to hear dating stories and what you did with your single friends anyway. Those dates are going to help you decided who you want to marry into and who you're going to become to make yourself happy. You make yourself happy, no one does that for you!! Remember that and you'll go around saying, "life is beautiful!!", because it is.  

Took this picture of cache valley during a date